I'm letting off steam by talking about my neighbours. Others are welcome to join with their problems/experiences
I know some of us have big problems dealing with our neighbours. There is a recent thread about serious harassment.
I and my family have always had problems with our neighbours. Often it's our fault, sometimes it's the eccentric/nutty neighbours with their peculiar habits. An additional problem was language. Both my parents were WWIi refugees from eastern Europe, and they never learnt to speak adequate English. Much of their behaviour was trying to disguise that fact because they were secretly ashamed of it.
At present I live in a first floor flat and I get the feeling my neighbours are shunning me. No surprise. I'm anti social, I talk to myself and take photographs from my windows of the local wildlife.
Previously I lived with my parents in house with a large garden. And They had more mental health issues than me. On that Street we were shunned by the normal residents
One neighbour who I never spoke with used to hide as I walked past. At that time I was either studying or working away from home and came home once a week or two weeks. As I walked past his house, I noticed a quick swift movement as he hid behind a tree or went round the side of his house. I finally found out the reason for this on the day of his funeral!!!!
Another neighbour who I will call Mrs K was an eccentric,. Spoke my mother's language and at one time used to visit us up to 4 times a day. On her way to church, on her way home. On her way to the shops, on her way home. She was always stressed out, in a bad mood and depressing. Short conversations were complaining about her next door neighbour (FOR TWENTY YEARS) what time he comes in at night, knocking nails, moving furniture, his drunken tenants, his gardening, him sitting outside his house enjoying the sunshine. My mother joked, " if he farts in his own house, she will come round here and complain about it". Other news she always have us from her daily church visits. Were, who's died and when's the funeral.
I avoided her as much as possible. Eventually she fell out with my mother over trivia and didn't visit or speak to her again for ten years, until they both past away in the same month.
Then we had a Mrs M. Very different from Mrs K. This woman became a pest. Started of very well. She was very sociable and smiling and first time I spoke to her she told me. 'your family is not very popular on this street' that was an understatement.
Physically she was very healthy. But mentally unstable,. She started coming round every day and complaining that people wouldn't talk to her, were shunning her etc. Whenever I was doing something in the garden or external house maintenance, she came round with a big smile, round face, hypnotic voice and very very strong eye contact . And started a conversation that just wouldn't end. Often about families, their health, holidays, relationships, who married to who, have they brothers and sisters, children, school. Work, etc etc etc. And this repetitive conversation would go on for well over an hour and then she came round a day or two later and repeated the whole boring conversation all over again and again and again.
No wonder people were avoiding her. Mrs K used to cross the road whenever she saw her in the distance.
When I moved out into a flat, she just kept on phoning me in a bad temper with the same conversation and always complaining that I don't phone her often enough. Until I changed my phone number.
End of rant for now. Need breakfast.
Robert123 said:One neighbour who I never spoke with used to hide as I walked past. At that time I was either studying or working away from home and came home once a week or two weeks. As I walked past his house, I noticed a quick swift movement as he hid behind a tree or went round the side of his house. I finally found out the reason for this on the day of his funeral!!!!
Good Evening from DC / 'Oh No it is DC again!' (Please delete where applicable.)
I offer two matters, concerning that which I quoted, there:
1 - What was the reason? Or, if you do not want to elaborate, then I understand, and so please ignore this.2 - ... I regret (sort of) to admit that I do this myself, because I am a very nervous sort, yet *always* whenever I see a CHILD. I am seen as a valid target for stone-throwing, and it is even worse if they find out where I live...
This is embarrassing and I need to give you some background information.
My father was Polish and this neighbour was Ukrainian. These countries are neighbours. And on our street the houses are lower than the public pavement.
On the day in question I noticed a couple of black limousines outside the house and people helping a frail old lady into one of the cars. So I guessed that it was her husband's funeral.
I mentioned for the first time to my mother the way this man kept hiding from me whenever I walked past.
She immediately responded, that's because your father sings to him as he walks past his house.
I asked, sings what?
And,... This rhymes in Polish better than English.
"I'm up here, you're down there. I have your Ukraine up my B#**&Y A#*e".
A couple of weeks later I came across his widow in her garden and I apologised to her.
P.S. thanks for asking the question about why the neighbour used to hide.
Disallowed Cynosure said:Good Evening from DC / 'Oh No it is DC again!' (Please delete where applicable.)
In being invited to (Please delete where applicable), and if you will forgive me ~ taking the liberty of using a bit of creative licence also:
"Good Evening from DC"
"Oh wow ~ it's DC again!"