Our 15 year old son has recently been diagnosed with borderline autism. We have not seen his report as yet. The only reason apparently he was not fully diagnosed is because he wants to be sociable and we were told this is not a trait of autism, but he ticks the boxes on nearly all other symptoms. When he does try to make friends he gets ostracised, told he is weird and bullied. Over the years we have had to overcome many issues with school and social activities due to his behaviour. Looking back he seems to have many autistic traits, including late talking, fussy baby, refusing close contact, tantrums, trouble interacting with other children. Most primary school teachers speaking to us concerning his interruptions towards the teacher during lessons etc.......
Can I have anybodies thoughts please. We feel we are getting nowhere.
Hello NAS35005. Unfortunately not all "professionals" are up to date with diagnosing. And as male those diagnosing would be looking at the typical male presentation. However if you look at the more female presentation you get a different picture. although males can have a more female presentation and vice versa. It is thought that in some females with autism and diagnosed as such, they do want to be sociable but as you described they do not know how and then have difficulties with social communication and interaction as you have described with your son. If you look at the Tania Marshall list of characteristics you might identify other traits too. We do often prefer isolation but that is for several reasons. Because sometimes we actually prefer to be alone and thats ok; Past hurts and confusion trying to build relationships; the extra time we need as time out from interacting in different situations. But that doesn't mean that if we could build and maintain friendships with like minded people who would understand and accept us that we wouldn't like that, its just that its hard to achieve. . Im not sure that my reply actually helps you get anywhere but it is a different interpretation of what you seem to have said.
Just read this post, exactly the same problems as me with my 15 year old boy.
borderline autism doesn't seem to have any help what so ever - struggled for years with school etc. No social skills at all but as work is good they seem not to care! Let me know if you find any help xx I worry how they will get on at uni or work?!
We eventually got our son's report from CAMHS telling us he wasn't autistic. He suffers terribly with contamination OCD's needing to wash hands repeatedly and 30 minute showers to name a few. It is very exhausting for us! His senco teacher in school advised us to push for a second opinion as she was convinced he had ASD and incidentally treated him in school as if he did. They have been excellent with him, giving him help and putting special measures in place.
We had an appointment with CAMHS to help treat him with this using CBT. We stressed to the psychologist that we were sure he had high functioning autism. He agreed after speaking to my son and referred us to the child psychiatrist, who, after an in depth meeting and numerous questions finally diagnosed him with high functioning autism. He seemed to have no doubt. Since then, which was a few weeks ago, we have met with our local education ASD officer for advice etc. We at last feel that all the pieces fit together through his childhood. I just wish he had been diagnosed earlier, as he now has to play catch-up with school work and has gone back a year. He also feels a sense of relief with the diagnosis as it all makes sense to him now the way he feels and acts.
Perhaps you could ask for a second assessment.
Hi, thank you so much for this it's nice to know you are not on your own with these things and I think you are right another opinion would be good. If we don't push them no-one seems to want to!
Good luck let me know how he's getting on-and I'm going back to our senco lady tomorrow to try and push again. Camhs wouldn't take my son on last year but suggested CBT unfortunately I couldn't get him to leave the car even with me and gave up after 2 app's.
thank you again x