Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all,
I thought I'd give this site a whirl. I am hoping to learn more about ASD as I feel I'm just plodding along doing what I think is best for my daughter who is 12 years and muddled and struggled through year 7. Because she looks fine and doesn't show she really does not comprehend what she's meant to being doing at school. So she copies what others do.
When she gets home from school she has a meltdown and tells me how much she is struggling.I then relate that back to teachers who say she is doing very well. No she is not!! The prove is when you speak to her on a one to one you will understand how much she struggles to understand and can only take bite size information.
Because I am her voice it's frustratingly difficult for people to understand as her. As its within.
I am waiting for yet another educational assessment to get her into another school hopefully additional one as she is just a number at her main stream.
Im happy to hear from other carers who are going or have journeys regarding ASD dilemmas.
I hope you will get some replies from people who are parents or carers or even other students at school. I do not know the school system but had a friend who eventually got the support she needed for her son in school.
My school days are a long way away but I did find school very hard. I was middle of the road but I did struggle but because I was seemingly managing ;no one took any notice. I knew that I found it hard to conform on the one hand and people pleased on the other. I did stare out of the window a lot and get bored and fidget and find it hard to keep up. Then my family had to put up with difficult moods, loud music etc and I found it hard to plan and finish my homework. I do remember not feeling like I fitted in and it took me 3 years to settle into my small secondary ( all girl ) school. There were difficult things going on at home too. And then of course hormones. And difficulty socialising in one form or another. It's all an awful lot for a young person to cope with. Add on what I now know as my diagnosis and it was mostly a bit hellish. Dyslexia had just about reached us but that was it. It's really exhausting for parents and youngsters. There is a rather large thread on here about asd women and on there are a few links which you might find helpful. Many of us females have found Tania Marshall checklist very helpful. And it may help you to look at the adhd websites searching for girls and women because it is often unrecognised and ignored too. If you have information and checklists to show either your Gp or teachers it may help to show your concerns more clearly. I'm not sure I've helped much it's just that it's sad to think of your daughter not getting the help she needs.
Thank you very much for taking time to reply and sharing your journey and experience. I will take a look at suggestions you recommended. By your reply It will help my daughter and I to armour ourselves against lots of life's battles.