12 year old Asperger`s child is very aggressive towards me.

I am a single mother struggling to cope with my son`s violent behaviour and it`s tearing us apart, he is a controlling, manipulative bully-because I am his main carer it is aimed at me as I do not have any supportive family or friend`s, at school he manages to control his behaviour but is unhappy and when he gets home he takes all his anger out on me, he is also  verbally abusive towards me. It's taken me 5 years to fight for him to see a psychologist - out of this my son has been seeing a behavioural therapist and his  therapist agrees my son needs to be put on medication but because my son controls his behaviour at school and not at home he does not think the psychologist will agree to this.

I can't go on like this anymore and I know I cant allow my son to behave this way and it is unacceptable, he does face concequences for his negative behaviour but he is devoid of any emotion of guilt for the way he behaves,.

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  • Remember one thing: psychologist can't decide medication, psychiatrist can. If psychiatrist  or paediatrician says no to medication ask what they suggest. You may even want to use your phone to record an outburst from your son. Explain you don't have other people to help.

    If they want to do more behavioral work then ask if you can have a social worker come and do a home observation and assess whether you can get some respite care.

    12 is a tough age, but you've got to look after yourself too. I would also suggest you talk to your GP about how difficult it is for you, because they may be able to speak with the specialist

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  • Remember one thing: psychologist can't decide medication, psychiatrist can. If psychiatrist  or paediatrician says no to medication ask what they suggest. You may even want to use your phone to record an outburst from your son. Explain you don't have other people to help.

    If they want to do more behavioral work then ask if you can have a social worker come and do a home observation and assess whether you can get some respite care.

    12 is a tough age, but you've got to look after yourself too. I would also suggest you talk to your GP about how difficult it is for you, because they may be able to speak with the specialist

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