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Feeling very isolated and low

NAS37554
over 5 years ago

I feel so isolated and low. I am always excluded from things. I hate spending every evening by myself. I have tried to be good and kind to people but I am still excluded from things because I am just weird and unusual and people don't tend to like me. I have worked very hard to get a place at a good college and improve my physical/mental state but still I feel so excluded from everything. I even got banned from being anywhere near my partner's house because I had a meltdown outside and her housemates heard. I bought a rope the other day and spent the evening walking in the forest looking for somewhere to tie it. I'm feeling really low and have had bad experience with Crisis/MH team and not sure where to turn.Hel




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  • over 5 years ago

    Hi there, sorry about your experience. It must take its toll not only on you but your partner. You don't have to try to be good and kind. Just naturally be yourself. There is nothing wrong with being unique or weird that what makes you stand out as a person. When, I was at College, it was hard for me to come out of my shell engaging with others. But, gradually the more you become familiar with situations like this the easier it should become. 

    It must be difficult when it seems like your the only one who truly understands or you have to be your own cheerleader. It might be worth speaking to a helpline e.g. Samaritans whether it is by phone, e-mail, text or post...There are other helpline services or organisations but I know Samaritans is one of them.

    A&E is another potential option if necessary. You have to remember you are a human being no one is perfect. Others, should realise not everything is black and white. Please don't put yourself through neglect or upset. You have to say to yourself I have to do this for me or believe in myself or whichever the main reason or purpose for it. You have to remind yourself you are worthy and highly valued even though it may not seem like it but you will see the change. It may not come rapidly but inevitably it will happen. You soon realise you are in control of your own life, happiness as well as fulfilling your dreams desires or improving not only your life but your partner's. You will find a new sense of belonging or a new lease of life which is there to be enjoyed.

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  • over 5 years ago

    Hi there, sorry about your experience. It must take its toll not only on you but your partner. You don't have to try to be good and kind. Just naturally be yourself. There is nothing wrong with being unique or weird that what makes you stand out as a person. When, I was at College, it was hard for me to come out of my shell engaging with others. But, gradually the more you become familiar with situations like this the easier it should become. 

    It must be difficult when it seems like your the only one who truly understands or you have to be your own cheerleader. It might be worth speaking to a helpline e.g. Samaritans whether it is by phone, e-mail, text or post...There are other helpline services or organisations but I know Samaritans is one of them.

    A&E is another potential option if necessary. You have to remember you are a human being no one is perfect. Others, should realise not everything is black and white. Please don't put yourself through neglect or upset. You have to say to yourself I have to do this for me or believe in myself or whichever the main reason or purpose for it. You have to remind yourself you are worthy and highly valued even though it may not seem like it but you will see the change. It may not come rapidly but inevitably it will happen. You soon realise you are in control of your own life, happiness as well as fulfilling your dreams desires or improving not only your life but your partner's. You will find a new sense of belonging or a new lease of life which is there to be enjoyed.

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