Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there
A little backstory... I am a mum of 2 boys there is a 16 yr gap between them. my oldest is 17 my younger child is 15 months old. I have had a lot of issues over the years and was not meant to be able to get pregnant but in March 2016 we found out we where. since then its been a rollercoaster. I was poorly through pregnancy, then little one was born struggling to breathe, then months of reflux and hernia in the belly button. Its just been one after another
Over the months with the little one, I was noticing small things like he doesn't look when his name is called (he does sometimes). he is dangling his dummy mainly in front of his face he is always hanging his dummy on cupboard or gate, when it doesn't stay he gets frustrated and bits the gate or cupboard. he is having a few outburst each day, resulting in him repeatedly banging his head, hitting me or trying to bite me. he wakes around with things on his head and gets really upset with certain noises. He has always made growling noises and always looks tired. some days he is wiped out and sleeps more some days he can run up and down the room. he has a certain corner in the living room he sits in but pushes people away whenever they stand there.
Part of me knows he has all the signs of autism but my family and partner say he is just bad-tempered., and I need to stop his behavior. when I tried to say my feelings I get told why am I wishing that on my child. I am feeling so awful right now and feel like I am overreacting. I have an amazing friend who I face time every day her son is autistic, and she approached me and told me she could see all the signs. that's before I said I had my feelings about him.
sorry for long post but I am just exhausted and I guess I just need to know i have support somewhere.
thx
gem
Hi Gem,
Wow. What a story. Sounds like you are one switched-on mum! Amazing!
Despite my years of learning things from books(!) you should go with your own instincts. As his Mum you really do know him best of all.
I don't think you are overreacting at all. Keep reading, and try to keep an open mind. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. That is all any of us can do, really.
Take it from me - a forty-something "only just realised I'm on the spectrum" - if you are indeed correct, spotting this early and getting the support you all need can make all the difference. Your lad will turn out far less "messed up" if at least one of his parents is not in denial.
Best of luck.
hi DongFeng5
thank you for your reply. yes, reading is what I am doing at the moment getting as much information as I can. I am also doing a log of his behaviors and if I see any triggers. my only concern is finding out what is wrong with my son and then finding and getting the support he needs to live his life.
sorry to hear you have only just realized you're on the spectrum but at least now you may be able to get the help you need if any is required.
again thank you so much for your reply means a lot
best of luck.