I recently met an Aspie (online, and then in person), and she told me that I am one, too.. I did some reading, and many of the traits seem to resonate with me, so it seems likely she's right.
I don't think I need a diagnosis, but have joined here to find others who may be in the same position and would then understand me.
I have worked with computers and moved into programming (to make computers and computer-controlled equipment, do useful things.
While I tended to get on with colleagues, I have had almost no friends outside work, and since I became self-employed, have little contact with others.
I have always found it difficult to start a conversation with people, but I do better, online. Sometimes I get on with someone and manage to meet them, later - I tend to contact people from abroad, and then try to meet them during my travels.
Most days I only talk to the cats that visit me. I have discovered cat cafes in recent years, and have visited 10, so far.. including in Prague, Bratislava, Vienna and Budapest.
Sometimes I haven't spoken to anybody for weeks, but communicate online most days.
Even with people I know, including my siblings, I prefer texts and emails to phone calls.
Cats and aspies must be a thing! I am a programmer too, also self employed, and when I work from home I have two big purring black sentinels,who sit one either side of me and keep me sane :-)
You must have them well trained....mine just lay on my keyboard.....enforced tea break!