Making Friends

Hi, I am also new here and also got diagnosed with Asperger's last week at age 50 and although I have got a lot of 'friends', I also spend most of my time on my own! I guess I'm tired of simply 'fitting in', it's exhausting and is of no real interest to me anyway.

Hi thanks for message I find I get terribly lonely always on my own and this makes my depression worse, do you get lonely ? I don't want to fit in have always felt different and won't change just to fit in, I know I am a good person with good qualities I just want to be understood and treated with respect I was bullied at school and work and not worked now for 16 years

What is your name please ?

Hi, sorry, yeah, my name is Neikka. I get lonely sometimes, even though I do sometimes prefer to be by myself and sometimes I simply need to be by myself. I have never been bullied but that's because I did a good job of fitting in. I have had lots of different jobs, including social worker and mental health practitioner but I haven't worked for several years now. I think I've been experiencing burn out although I am slowly, very slowly coming out of it. I just joined a local support group for autistic people which was really good, I really enjoyed it, just being around people where I could just be me and not have to explain myself was very calming. I've only been once so haven't got to know them all yet but looking forward to going back next week.

I'm not sure how to accept a friend request, I'll have a quick look

I like nature and walks will you accept me as a friend on here please ? I tried requesting it but don't think it worked am struggling to get used to it on here at moment not easy just on phone I want a relationship also just a close loving relationship with someone that accepts me as me and doesn't judge or put me down like my last girlfriend did

I know, I don't buy into being 'mildly' autistic, I think you either are or you aren't and no matter how it appears outwardly, its f*****g hard. I may pass as semi normal but that's not even half of it. I feel like I'm walking through fog half the time, or like I'm constantly stunned or something but people don't see that and I wouldn't know how to tell them anyway as I didn't even understand it. I haven't had many relationships, at first I didn't even want one, I just wanted one so I didn't look so odd but now I would like one but this past year has been spent mostly in the house by myself and just now I'm more interested in working out what makes me happy and how I can support myself financially and do the things I love doing, such as being outside in nature, in the woods, up mountains, or out on my bike, that sort of thing.

It's hard getting the right help it is very poor for Autistic adults who are not severe autistic like me and you but it is still bad enough trying to cope with what we have it upsets me so much I feel I need so much help I can't work cant make friends had 4 major relationships end I recently cut my arms quite bad self harming I just want to be happy

It's hard getting the right help it is very poor for Autistic adults who are not severe autistic like me and you but it is still bad enough trying to cope with what we have it upsets me so much I feel I need so much help I can't work cant make friends had 4 major relationships end I recently cut my arms quite bad self harming I just want to be happy

I'm not sure how to accept a friend request, I'll have a quick look

I like nature and walks will you accept me as a friend on here please ? I tried requesting it but don't think it worked am struggling to get used to it on here at moment not easy just on phone I want a relationship also just a close loving relationship with someone that accepts me as me and doesn't judge or put me down like my last girlfriend did

I know, I don't buy into being 'mildly' autistic, I think you either are or you aren't and no matter how it appears outwardly, its f*****g hard. I may pass as semi normal but that's not even half of it. I feel like I'm walking through fog half the time, or like I'm constantly stunned or something but people don't see that and I wouldn't know how to tell them anyway as I didn't even understand it. I haven't had many relationships, at first I didn't even want one, I just wanted one so I didn't look so odd but now I would like one but this past year has been spent mostly in the house by myself and just now I'm more interested in working out what makes me happy and how I can support myself financially and do the things I love doing, such as being outside in nature, in the woods, up mountains, or out on my bike, that sort of thing.