I posted a few hours ago for advice on respite care for my Autistic son, I'm sitting here holding bad the tears so my husband doesn't know, can't talk to him as here's had years of stress and is on chemotherapy. He's not son my biological father but as been a good dad to him but he can not take anymore stress and as had to walk away. I'm desperate and feeling alone in this, I'm afraid for my welfare and mental health, I'm dreading everytime the phone rings in case it's my son threatening to kill himself or harm I've got no energy left in me to fight anymore. I wish I could magic money so I could afford the places that he could go to but I just don't have it.
Please does anyone know of any services that assess for immediate respite care for him. Our mental health service doesn't understand autism the last time he had them involved they were ment to send someone round to see him the next day after discharging him. Only to find they forgot which ended up in cutting himself up as he felt no one care and he was worthless.
I live in the Warwickshire area. I'm desperate and really don't know how longer I can't cope.
Hi Julie - I've seen your posts and feel for all of you. Mental health services are poor in this country as there isn't enough funding. I know saying that's doesn't help but it's a shocking fact of life. Have you rang the out of hours social services duty team? If not then do so and leave them in absolutely no doubt about your situation. Also contact your local councillor and whoever is the Chair of Adult social services and also the Director of social care - check out the council's website. Also contact your MP. You should not have to do any of these things but it's all I can think of which may help to put pressure on the services to respond. I have been in a position where I dreaded the phone ringing - the worry and tension shreds your nerves. I wish I could be of more help. I hope your son will accept any help which may materialise. x Crystal
Julie, if you think your son is at risk of harming himself or others you need to get mental health services involved and once he's in there you say you want a social worker to see him before he leaves.
You also ring the local council and find out how to register him as being disabled. You also go to DSS and do the same.
The alternative is YOU ask for psychiatric help by turning up at ED and letting them know you can't cope any more and your son doesn't have his usual support because you are not able to care for him.
Thank you so much for replying, he has a social worker for vulnerable adults and everytime I've brought hi to the mental health team or the hospital they just send him home staying it's not a mental health crisis. That just makes him even more upset and harms again because he feels there not listening. The only time the sectioned him for two weeks was because my husband and I threatened then if any harm comes to him or others we would hold them accountable. He so afraid he can't convey. The last time I pleaded with the mental health team got in into there hospital only for him to turn him away saying they could manage outside. No one ever came spite me chasing them daily. I actually work in the field of nursing in a senior position so I'm not unfamiliar with how and what should happe. They just keep expecting me to sort it and I should as his mum but I can't watch anymore him loss weight, overdose, and crying out to just die. He really wants to go some where for support and time out to try and feel normal.
Below is part of the reply (which I do not know if you have read) I posted to your 'Urgent Respite' thread.
Please visit:https://www.rethink.org/about-us/our-mental-health-advice/crisis-contactsfor some contact advice.
Sorry I didn't thank you, I'm just emotional weak right now and hit a brick wall. I will try them thanks again for your advice and listening. Julie