I've been working there for over 5 years now, even though I know that some people know that I have aspergers, I don't know who does or who doesn't really. And the problem is that I never have been able to start a conversation with anyone myself from when I started working there until now 5 years! I've been able to reply to others when they ask me something but it mainly just involves work related stuff and not just general chatting? Also when people in the workplace ask me to do something, I always need slightly a longer time than a NT to process the information they said and to understand what they mean. I worry that if they don't realise I have aspergers then they may wonder why and not understand how to actually speak to me to pass the instructions on about what they want me to do?
Also, noone talks to me that much and I want them to understand why and not for them to just think that I just don't want to speak to them? Because I always appear socially awkward, they may just not know why etc.
Also one thing I overheard my line manager (this was a while ago) say to one of the secretaries was that I hate everyone etc because I didn't go to the Christmas meal. I was very annoyed when he said that though he has no idea how annoying this could be especially because he should of known why I didn't go to the meal not because I hate everyone, I didn't mention anything about it though but he has been much of a better line manager now probably because he tried to understand my condition a lot more now.
But yeah overall I just want all people at work to know I have aspergers and that is what explains why I behave the way I do at work. I sometimes can be uncomfortable with telling people that I have aspergers but if there is a good reason to I don't mind at all.
Would it be good to do this then overall? Would my line manager actually help me draft up a email so he can email everyone in the workplace to make them aware that I have aspergers and how it effects me and what other additional information is good to add on as well?
I feel like this maybe a good step to take, perhaps the first step to make the workplace a slightly more relaxed environment for me because I will probably be working there for quite a long time from how things are looking.
Also I haven't got any mentor in the workplace, I feel like I need at least someone that I can feel comfortable to talk with privately about my worries concerns and progression etc my line manager is good but I don't feel comfortable talking to him unfortunately, He take things too seriously and jokes a lot which is good but then when the times he is serious, It just makes me uncomfortable and anxious when asking him things. I need someone who is serious but makes me relaxed to talk about things if that makes sense!
From when I started working there until now which has been quite a long time, I have never felt relaxed, I always felt tense and anxious and just got on with my work constantly, but now as I'm getting a bit older, I think I know that this could be one of the issues what is causing this, still not sure yet! The other thing is the amount of different assisting tasks I done, I feel like I just don't get appreciated enough. :(
I'm more of a mass email person rather than letting everyone know individually. I'd find it excruciating going around and speaking to everyone about this. If you feel an email would be better you could create a draft and then post it on here for people to amend. Once you have a draft you feel comfortable with then would be the time to discuss it with them and to see if they’d suggest any amendments. If I worked with you I’d prefer it if you emailed me as it would give me time to process what was happening before I reacted.
It sounds like applying to A2W would be helpful for you. They could provide a workplace mentor and pay for someone to come into deliver a session on autism awareness for your colleagues. If you ask your assessor they may also recommend the Brain in Hand app, which could help you to develop coping strategies for work.
Thank you for the link, I have had a look and may need this when the time is right. I think I probably won't do emails now I'll do what Endymion suggested but I probably will only tell 1/2 people and leave it at that. Endymion made a good point.
I think sending an e-mail around the entire office is a really bad idea.
Whether they already know or not, an e-mail sent to everyone would only cause a 'sensation' and make an issue out of the situation which in turn would not help your situation as people would be more likely to talk about you than to you.