Every time I go out and do something, like shopping, browsing or take the kids out I am absolutely shattered after and fall asleep no matter how hard I try to stay awake. It really is quite annoying and I feel so silly having to go and lay down in the middle of the day
At the weekend my husband suggested taking the kids (5 of them) to Smyth's toy store, just to get out of the house and do something the children would enjoy. It was packed full of people! There was music on the speakers, sounds from all the toys and hundreds of voices all at the same time. Everybody was brushing into me and the kids were going mental, wanting to try every scooter they could find. I HATED IT! When we got back I fell asleep for a couple of hours!
Yesterday and today I have spent my mornings taking photos of Pre School kids and last week I did another Pre School. I have hundreds of photos to edit so they can order before Christmas but I am SO tired ZZzZZzzzzzzzz.. It's SO hard!How do you deal with fatigue and work?
Wow! This is an amazing thread so much I can relate to! I've just recently "passed" my initial ASD tests and am currently waiting for assessment for formal diagnosis. Energy levels have always been massive issue for me even as a child my sleeping wasn't great. I too find being around people particularly draining i work full time hour's over four days a week which gives me a day off in the week (I'm an administrator in a hospital and condensed hours are the norm) working 9+ shifts may sound crazy but I've actually found this helpful as I have Wednesdays off so only have two consecutive days off working (work Mon,Tues, Thurs,Fri) most days I could quite easily turn loafing and sofa snoozing into an Olympic sport lol! However since I've changed working hours from traditional 9-5 Mon-Fri to My current condensed shifts I'm gradually finding it easier to function. Like blueray I've also been trying to exercise more - I started off with small goals of a 10 min walk, then walking instead of driving short journey, I'm now using a free app I downloaded to train to run 5km. Gradually finding energy levels and quality of sleep improving, I'm not at all a sporty person (always the last kid to get picked for teams) but after many an abandoned attempt to join a gym, take up a sport etc i found something I like doing that a) I like doing, b) is cheep, c) I can fit into my day - running I've found it helps me wind down. coffee makes me sleepy believe or not! But I love it and find it comforting but not great beverage option during the day for me lol! I switched to decaff but found it joyless so just drink my favourite black sugary coffee once a day and drink plenty of water and this has helped. not sure where I'm going with all this but I think what I'm trying to say is I've found that small things all add up, 5 mins meditation when I wake up, cutting myself some slack by being kind to myself by not feeling guilty for.needing to take some down time useful, looking a what and when I eat , exercising etc I guess half the battle is finding what works for you. Phew! Hope some of this is useful ....
Tiredness can be caused by many things.
Sometimes things that make one person tired make someone else euphoric.
There's physical work, mental worry, coping with problems, worrying about the future, lack of exercise, dehydration, lack of sleep, too much sleep, physical illnesses etc
Regular Sleep is very important. Plan to get enough by going to bed at a reasonable hour. If you get it right you will feel refreshed in the morning. I, for example have very bad sleeping patterns. I often wake up exhausted. Going to sleep at 3am and getting up at 7. I then fall asleep during the day, on buses, trains, in front of the TV. Sleeping tablets are dangerous because of the risk of overdose/suicide.
Regular meals also help to relax, as is having breakfast and remember to keep hydrated by just drinking water.
Physical exercise can also help tiredness as long as it's not to rigourous. If you're fitter you can cope better. Physical health can help mental health is what my psychiatrist quoted.
And get regular blood tests. Several years ago when I was tiring very quickly, multiple blood tests eventually found that I had a low red blood cell count caused by a low iron level in my blood. I was anaemic.
'I just feel like going into hibernation' - this is exactly how I feel today even though I've been in hibernation for the last 12 months. I thought I was coming out of it and I am doing a lot more but it's just so tiring and it's like every time I come into contact with someone I go into this stupid default mode that 'I'm ok' when I'm not. I did admit that to the nurse today but as soon as I get talking it's as if I'm ok again when I'm not. It's so confusing, annoying and frustrating. It's so much easier in hibernation but then I'm scared I'll never come out of it. I wish I could help you. I do have a lot of self control and I'm sure it's going to help me in the long run but I feel like I've wasted so much of my life and now I know what the problem is, I just want to get on with it but can't. Arrggggghhhhhh I did make it to the swimming baths again last night, which is good but I haven't been back to the gym yet, it just feels like too much hard work sometimes :(
@ Queenie Redshoes ~ yes, that is useful and gives me hope. I used to work as a Social Worker and I remember doing my hours over 4 days was helpful but I still don't think I can go back to that work. I know what you mean about decaf, I tried that as I love cappuccino but I too found it joyless and was convinced it didn't taste as good so went back to full strength but at present I know I can't cope with it. Sometimes it makes me sleepy, which I don't mind but when it makes me high, it's more than I can handle just now. I too love running and did the 5 k thing but have started from the beginning again although have only been out once recently. I suppose it's small steps which is what I'm struggling with, I just want to be ok NOW lol! Just coming on here and reading your replies has made me feel better and I've got a better perspective but I think I'll follow your lead and start to walk places instead of using the car all the time. I did think about doing that the other day then forgot!!! It sounds like your getting a handle on it, which gives me hope. Thank you.
I've had some bloods taken today, I asked them to check my iron levels and vitamin D levels so they said they'd check the whole lot while they're at it.
Your list of possible reasons is helpful, I'm coping with problems and worrying about the future, wondering when I'm going to come out of this burn out and worrying that whatever I do in the future is going to result in the same thing or if I'm going to be able to cope with work and still try to have a life! I can see that I am worrying more that I realise. Physical exercise, a good sleeping pattern and regular meals has always helped so that's what I'm trying to get back to and even though it doesn't feel like it sometimes, I am actually doing more than I have done in the last 12 months, even though it doesn't seem like much. I'm still not eating great or enough some days but some days I'm eating fairly well which is an improvement and most days I'm keeping hydrated and I'm getting out of bed every day so I am making progress.