Hi, my adult cousin is somewhere on the autism spectrum (he says he was diagnosed with Aspergers in 04 tho I think it was known before this) and I've been spending time communicating with/supporting him over the last few weeks. He's had a hard time of late but has not and mostly refuses to do himself any favours in how he goes about things despite my efforts to encourage him otherwise. He also has ambitions for his future which history indicates are not very likely to play out. I firmly believe he would benefit from counselling as he has self harmed recently but he is adamant that he knows more about his condition than any expert.
I could do with some advice on how to manage this situation. I am investing quite a lot of emotional energy in trying to help him at a time when I'm not blessed with bundles of said energy. Very little, if any, of my advice is getting thru to him. Has anyone been in a similar position? If so, did you manage the situation successfully? If so, how did you manage to be a help but avoid any detrimental impact on yourself? I have no intention of giving up on him but something has to change and I think it sits my end.
Hello, Self harming is generally considered to be the result of anxiety and/or depression. I would recommend that you try and get your cousin to make an appointment with his GP. If he refuses to do so, he may be able to refer himself for some CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy). To see if this is possible in your area see this NHS page.
For general guidance with autistic behaviour see here. I hope the situation eases for you. All the best Graham.
Hi Graham, thanks for your reply and links. I will continue to encourage him to do as you suggest.