Ive struggled my whole life, and still cant do simple things like go to the shop, use public transport, use the phone etc. Ive saw a few phychologists, councillers and CBT never worked.. it was never taken seriously.. was told maybe im just too shy.. or social anxiety. Ive never fitted in, in the past few years i found out more about autism and i knew right then.. this is me 100% so i did all the online tests scoring the highest possible scores. Printed it out and went to my GP. He was shocked i had never been assessed for autism before, so said he would refer me. 2 months later i get a letter from the hospital to attend an appointment with the psychiatrist.......
I went yesterday to my appointment all prepared. I had wrote notes down to remind me of what to bring up, what to say as my mind goes blank and i struggle to process things. I sat down, she went right to asking me questions so i look at my notes and she shouts to me to put my notes away! And i start stressing out and tell her i need them so there was pure silence i couldnt think of a thing to say... it was horrible... so i peek over to my notes and she tells me no! Put them away! I was fidgiting with my phone and she says " no phone " she barley spoke english and could barley understand me. She didnt care after 5mins she says " i dont know why you were even sent to me what a waste of time" my friend tried to help me and speak for me and she kept shh'ing her!!! She said everyone has a bit of autism, and she hates changes in routine too and said woman are no different to males. I came out heartbroken.. tears... went to bed at like 4pm hid under my covers. She did say shed write to my GP to refer to the specialist team. But i have no idea who that is and i cannot be waiting 2-3 years what can i do... i feel lost... no support... no nothing.. and im still crying over this woman yesterday!!!!
Some psychiatrists are brutal. They don't like having their decisions questioned, even when new information like possible autism might affect the way they've diagnosed you. Given the unprofessional way she behaved, even if she was having a bad day, you might like to consider a complaint to the hospital.
I had something similar when in secondary mental health care with a really patronising, unhelpful and frankly stupid psychiatrist who has now fortunately retired. Because I was already 'under' mental health care, when I raised autism with my GP, the GP had sent me to her as the doctor I was notionally 'under'. I was feeling strong enough to stand my ground insist on a referral, but the psychiatrist didn't make it easy or listen or accept anything I said. I think your outcome may be similar, so now you're through that, you should be on the waiting list for an autism diagnosis (from the 'specialist team'). I'd just check with your GP in a few days to see if they've had her letter yet (that in itself can take weeks).
Didn't mean to be so negative there, and concentrating on my own troubles.
I hope your friends can help, and you will get better professional help in time, and learn to do more things for yourself despite the social anxiety. Don't give up.