Is it too late?

At more than 50 years old, a series of events and encounters in my life have made me realised that I am very probably 'on the spectrum'. It has come to the point where I can no longer brush it under the carpet, act as a 'neurotypical' or let it continue to ruin my life.

Why did it take me so long to find out?

And where do I go from here?


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  • On this website there is information about "broaching" the subject:  

    It is sensitive, as telling someone you think they are on the spectrum might be taken as criticism and make someone defensive - especially when it is raised in a tense situation like an argument.  

    I think it is good to broach the subject in a manner that you communicate that you are keen to try and make his life better and more comfortable (and in doing so your own). Maybe that you would like to take his needs more into account?

    I am a bit curious about your motivation for your husband to get a diagnosis. You say it has caused you a lot of upset. It is always a good thing to keep tags on your own motivation and this might help you broach it in a manner that highlights his interest in this matter.

    I'm just saying this because I know some people in rocky marriages and I find it hard to hear them name calling their spouse "the autistic ***". It has almost become trendy to use the term autistic to husband bash (and this really upsets me).

    I think it is only a good idea - if the diagnosis is like a stepping stone to a better life for you both. Are you hoping things might be easier for you both when you know how to deal better with situations? Are you prepared yourself to put  a great deal of effort into trying to understand and make adjustments? 

    I'm sorry this sounds a bit of a preach but I'll post it anyway even though I should delete all of it besides the first line. Good luck with all!!! Curious what opinions the rest of the gang has to offer :-) 

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