Hello, as I said above i have my long awaited assessment tomorrow, they rang a little while ago with a cancellation.
I'm i think a little scared.
I'm 50, I don't know what to wear tomorrow, that sounds so stupid.
Wear whatever you feel most comfortable in... and just be yourself. They're not trying to catch you out. I had my assessment and diagnosis almost 3 years ago, aged 56. It took about an hour and was mainly focusing on my childhood, any problems I'd had in adult life (relationships, work, etc), and things that I generally found to be a struggle. My eye contact issue was obvious. I also mentioned the bullying at school, and the problems I had with social communication generally: body language, gestures, and so forth.
You're bound to feel anxious now - and that, too, will be picked up on. I went into mine knowing that I had ASC, so I tried to focus on the benefit I knew a formal diagnosis would give me. Since getting it, my life has changed. Now, I no longer feel like a freak. I no longer wonder why I can't make friends, or struggle with things that others take in their stride. It has improved my mental health, too, because now I know what the underlying reasons are for everything.
Good luck. I always tend to think the worst about something I have to do, and I over-analyse stuff. But really, my diagnostic assessment was nothing to worry about. Hopefully, yours will be the same.
Let us know how it goes.
PS Check out some similar threads under the 'Related' column on the right of this post. You should find useful information there, too.
Thank you Tom
Good luck, I hope it isn’t to stressful once it begins.
Try to be yourself,
And if you are feeling ok let us know how you got on.
Thank you for thinking of me today, I'm back now but I need to have a rest. I will let you know later or tomorrow how it went.
Have a good rest. You've earned it! And well done for getting through it.
Hope it wasn’t to stressful for you. No rush to talk,if and when you feel able.
As tom said well done for getting through it.
That was one of the most stressful things I have done for a long time.
We got there in time. The place didn t smell much but it was dirty. The lady came and got us and talked to me and asked questions for 4 1/4 hours!!! I had blu tack so I didn't rock too much. Some of the questions were a bit hard but most of it was ok and I was very tired by the end.
It will probably take about 8 weeks for the result.
Wow! That's quite a grilling! Well done for getting through it.
Thank you for coming back and telling us.
phew was there any breaks during it?
what did you decide to wear in the end, smart ,casual,or my way comfortable, for such an important meeting with a professional person I would normally dress in a way that allows me to cope, smart and professional looking.
if I go for my assessment then I have to try and be my true self? Victorian clothes as I feel real wearing them, they are me. My mind my way.
So mask off, frightens me somewhat as I really don’t know how I will react?
well done for getting through it, you said “ we” glad you had someone with you. I may be on my own.
Take care and rest as much as you need,
I am quite shocked they would ask questions for that long. In my test center they were quite sensitive to the fact that after an hour I started phasing out. It felt good that people actually noticed it. Usually I just keep struggling. Also they noticed when I blocked (like on answering a certain kind of question, you have to choose one or the other and often both are wrong - I hate that - and they were really kind about it). The tests were spread out over several weeks. Did you have to fill in a lot of forms and so forth? I'm just concerned that if they ask you to do an IQ test after three hours of questions, that might be a disaster :D I think that long wait is quite typical I also waited about that time for results (because the person writing the report was fully booked?!) but is is a long wait when you really want to know!
I filled in lots of forms before I went, loads of the questions were about the ones I hadn't answered, or the ones I had scribbled notes over. Ii was pretty non responsive by the end and my husband was doing most of the answering by then. She asked a lot about relationships, she said that most of my previous relationships have been abusive.
I have a super ihigh IQ but there is no way I would have got an even decent score after all that.
My interview would probably have gone on longer, but I pre-empted many of her questions because I gave such detailed answers to the ones she managed to ask. It was pointed out in my diagnosis that I gave overly-long answers. This sounds like you went through the grinder a bit. I was also asked questions about relationships - which have all been failures over my lifetime. I can see now that the failures were mainly rooted in my condition.
I have a high IQ, too, but they already knew that. Did you have to do an IQ test, too?
I find it quite difficult to be my true self so I think having such a long meeting might have been good.
(I told the sen lady at school that I was going for the test, she has known me for over 16 years she said I am no way autistic, that she couldnt imagine them giving me much of a score at all)
she asked a lot about hobbies, and told my husband that my knitting is a stim, I Knit socks.