Yet again I have had another shutdown at work and have been sent home.
I was off work before Christmas due to the shutdowns and started to feel better after a few weeks. I have only been back at work for just over 3 days and I have had another one.
As a result, I am now worrying about my security in my job and the prospect of finding another job in a similar role. Since my shutdowns have become worse, the director of my department no longer speaks to me and I have yet to see the follow-up from occupational health. My boss appears to be supportive, but I am aware I am bringing little value to the company at the moment.
My confidence is currently really low and I am frustrated I can't manage things better. There seems to be no help and support as I am considered to be very HF and so don't qualify for adjustments, support, guidance etc.
I was wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and whether you manage to get the help and support you need?
I am worried about my employment as I have a hefty mortgage to pay with no financial support from family etc. I can't afford to lose my job as I have been down this route before and ended up being homeless.
Sorry for ramblings and lack of cohesion, my anxiety is very high and I still haven't recovered properly.
Welcome back, we haven't heard from you for sometime.
And welcome to the club. I'm also facing homelessness in the near future.
I'm getting plenty of jobs interviews but that's it.
I haven't been on the forums as much as I have been trying to focus on getting well ready for my return to work. I'm sorry to hear things haven't improved for you. :-(
It's not a nice situation to be in and I wish I had a magic wand to make everything wonderful. If homelessness is a real threat and you don't own or have a mortgage on your home, I would suggest getting in touch with the council to see what emergency accommodation is available - there is normally a waiting list unless you are deemed as being vulnerable, although I would argue everyone is who is facing this type of situation. If you do own or have a mortgage on your home then it's very difficult as you are not seen as being viable for support unless you are actually homeless.
It seems such a backward way of working to me, but what do I know.
I hope something comes through for you soon.
Last time I was in a crisis, the local council were useless.
Their publicity material claims that they will help and negotiate to prevent problems becoming out of hand.
But when it comes down to it. They will only do something when problems have reached a crisis point and not before.
It's sad that it has to come to this. I'm starting to come to the realisation I may need to put a Plan B in place to prepare for the instance that I lose my employment and have to carry on paying all my expenditures.
I have always been a believer that prevention is better than cure, but I have found that most things in society are based on fire fighting approaches, where you are only deemed viable after you have failed and come down with a bump. It would be nice if those who make said decisions on intervention and support realised that the amount of effort and resource required would be much less with earlier intervention, rather than waiting until it's at crisis point.
I know that if I had had suppprt in my previous jobs, I would most likely still be working there now. You are entitled to support, by law. We might not always know what support we need, when we first start thinking about this but having the opportunity to sit down with someone from the company, who could help you work out what support would be most helpful to you, would be a start. You might be high functioning but that’s not an excuse for employers to not give you suppprt.
It might be helpful for you to speak to an independent advocate or someone from a disability group. You are entitled, by law, to be provided with access to an independent advocate and they will at least help you get more clarity around the situation.
It seems that many of us are in danger of being made homeless. I’m currently on a suspended repossession order and managing my money as best I can while I’m out of work.
Don’t be hard on yourself, you don’t need that, you need to be kind to yourself. You’re doing the very best you can under extremely difficult circumstances. There are people out there who can help you. You can contact your local social services and ask for the number of a local independent advocacy service or ask for a referral or you can google it. Disability rights groups are very helpful. You deserve help and support as much as anyone and the risks of not getting the support can be dire. And don’t let anyone tell you you’re high functioning, it’s a confusing term that is really only meant to be for the benefit of the health professionals. Take good care of yourself.