Well...Christmas will soon is upon us...... I have a house full of people (5/6 Christmas Eve, Christmas Day...increasing to 8/9 Boxing Day and the 27th December).
I am dreading it as it will mean several days without any personal space, or quiet time or escape from NTs doing their thing. They will enjoy their traditions and I will be ASD serving wench making sure that everyone has a good time, but inside i will be struggling to cope.
This is a shout out...as I am going to need some help to get me through without a tantrum, shutdown or meltdown.
Is there anyone else about during the Christmas break who is planning to be online ......it would help a great deal to keep me on an even keel!
Not sure if I can, but it would be great to. There's just 3 of us which makes it more intense and busy with little escape, but if i can get some time out I will. I find it hard and often do what i am told is 'withdrawing' which I suppose is what you mean by shutdown, it can be in the room or I go to my room for a while or do all the kitchen graft. It would be good to have a dog to escape outdoors with it. If it's mild weather, I will find some jobs outdoors for a couple of hours.
Yes I will be around at that time and will be sure to check the website. Hope things don't get too stressful for you :)
thank you..it means alot x
I’ll keep checking in Elie. I’ll be with my family, and they are often all sat on their phones anyway. They probably won’t be on Christmas Day as that will break their rules, but hey, I’ve always been a rule breaker so why stop now ;) I wouldn’t want to disappoint them.
I’m finding that coming on here is really helping me so coming on here over the dreaded period will probably help me as well.
You've got an awful lot of folk to deal with and as they say at Asda or somewhere, every little helps :-) see you on Christmas Eve X
Thank you Blueray.....you anarchist!! Glad being here with us motley lot is helping.
the guest list is not my choice....it is just my OH is a BIG xmas and family fan! - I am fighting the urge to do a runner and hide in someone's shed until the calm returns...
let me know if you have a cupboard under your stairs that you dont mind subletting for a couple of days! - lol
I'm a skinny bint, and fold well...
Never mind the cupboard, I’ve got a house, a shed and a garden, take your pick :-)
I find that if I can get a bit of escapism in and I keep as quite as I can, I can kind of enjoy the day. I think it’s gonna be ok, and if we can get on here and keep ourselves on an even keel, we can appreciate that we at least have a warm house, people and nice food, even if it’s not our world.
Being here is definitely helping. Like many have said, it can be a bit overwhelming sometimes but it is most definitely helping and I feel like I have a family.
I am proud to say I feel like this is my family. Real people,
To ellie I will hopefully be escaping into my shed a lot, being penned up indoors doesn’t fill me with any thoughts of happiness, I smoke and therefore am on my own, no one who visits smokes, and what with the young grandchild I can escape for a ciggie as my excuse to cosy up in my shed, Hester on,radio gentle playing, iPad on my lap chatting to my family here, just hope it can be more in shed than in house.
My shed is warm and comfy so all are welcome, xxx()()()
Hey as a fellow smoker....(coping, self soothing mechanism) and a drinker (coping, brain switching off liquid, anxiety squasher mechanism)..and enjoying "family" here (existential crisis avoidance mechanism) I may well pop around and fill your shed with smoke and cigarette ends!
thank you BlueRay... that is very sweet and very generous, and also very very very tempting! - This black sheep would be tainted even further if i dared to duck and run!!! - nice food is one thing...but the company this year for me just highlights even more my own bubble of isolation and their lack of care to even ask how I am....let alone....who I am! xx