Hey everyone - I've been pretty inactive on the forums as I emigrated to Germany four years ago and have been struggling to find my feet here, but I secured a diagnosis, which was really a huge relief!
Anyway, I had the opportunity to give a TEDx talk and I would love to hear what you think about it... did I actually represent the Aspie community accurately? I should have asked beforehand, but honestly didn't think about how far this video would go afterwards - I'd hate to think that I have made anyone else's life more difficult by telling my own story!
I hope you enjoy the talk either way, and I've had some feedback from people saying that they could relate to this and honestly, that made ME feel more like I'm not alone! Emigrating has been tough - I am extremely socially isolated but dealing with that is a challenge. Either way, it was nice to reach out into the ether in an unconventional way and experience understanding. I hope you all find the same!!
Thank you for sharing your self with us x
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Really enjoyed the talk, thank you, as I'm very interested in all things Aspergers. Only having become aware of my being Aspergers some two years ago, I'm learning more and more about my real aspergers self as opposed to the 'camouflaged' person I, inadvertently, spent most of my life being. Regarding relationships and having a person who is informed about Aspergers, I am fortunate in that I have a partner who is experienced in dealing with Aspergers (in her son) and who is invaluable to me. Relationships are two-way, so she is greatly appreciative of my being a fundamentally straight-forward, honest person who is able to support her in turn with her chronic illness.
I love the fact that you enjoyed the computer science joke - it was originally a little more complex and involved a joke about recursion, but I had to simplify it because the curators said that it would be too hard for people to understand :D I absolutely feel like I am constantly trying to "debug" the areas of my life that are not working, but fixing an error in one area tends to cause a malfunction somewhere else... and then I have to calm down and remind myself that I didn't write the code in the first place!
I think the challenges that you are facing are hard because you are actually IN a relationship - and I think many of us will know how hard it feels to get into one in the first place... you want to do everything that you can to keep it going as long as you can handle it. Of course you develop feelings for the person, but it is still a challenge. I just hope that you get your partner to a point where he is not "scared" of your diagnosis. I wish you lots of happiness and hope that things work out for the best!
Oh, and yes, I do feel like I am constantly trying to find intellectual ways to overcome life's problems and er... it seems to only work to a limited extent :)
Thank you for such a lovely reply...recursion....ever decreasing circles more like... i am tempted to try the following solutions..
x big love x