What led you seek diagnosis?
I have not yet been formally diagnosed as I have only recently connected the dots of all the difficulties I have had throughout my life. But, I would say the epiphany came when I split from my partner a few months ago.
The relationship collapsed due to to my behaviour and how I would struggle with supposedly simple tasks and it just put too much strain on the relationship as she would essentially have to do so much as I either didn't know how or didn't do things in a "normal" way that ended up causing problems.
There were some hints shortly before this, as one of her daughters is on the spectrum and we were like two peas in a pod in the way we would deal with certain situations, although at the time I think I was in denial as I had tried so hard to be "normal", which ironically made my behaviours more apparent and difficult to live with. Also, both my ex and a previous ex had asked or thought I may be on the spectrum although again at the time I believe I was in denial.
It was only after the relationship ended that I opened my eyes to the possibility that it was something more than just anxiety or depression (things I have and do at times suffer from) that made me feel so different to everyone else. So, I began to explore various avenues before finally realising I am on the spectrum as so much fits with how I feel and how I behave.
Hello you...welcome to the island x
I’m on the island too. Usual story of all the signs with no explanation and no awareness until a colleague asked me if I had Dcd/dyspraxia.. my research and epiphany began! I first had the Dcd diagnosis ( mentioning adhd and social issues). That didn’t quite answer my questions. Then I had a formal adhd diagnosis with asd traits but I wasn’t satisfied with that either. Then a specialist in women and girls diagnosed me last year. So it’s taken a while to come together and still adjusting and learning.