How does your neighbour know about your family being autistic. Did you tell them?
yes I told them. they have have also blocked the disabled bay. one of my children attends a SILC and he receives an escorted bus service. neighbours have sounded their horns at this bus, which has other autistic children on the bus. left bins at the side of our gate, made police aware but they have no autism awareness and how this affects my family. My son will not walk by bins. Thus bins left for weeks on end at our gate rather than neighbours own. This neighbour wanted (we found out later) his cousin to buy the house, we did instead and I feel since then he has been trying to drive my family out., spreading malicious lies and other neighbours are now saying I am a "nutter" etc due to my autistic presentation (ie detachment and disengaging).
So, the lights are, in some ways, the least of your problems there. I am really sorry- people (I should say some people) really are ignorant pigs and there sadly seems to be no cure for this.
Feeling safe at home is important, its largely all we have in this world- I think, if I was you, I would seriously think about moving. I know its not fair on you to move but, if it means you may find peace, kindness and understanding elsewhere, then it must be worth considering?
I agree, we do not feel safe. money is an issue regarding moving at the moment. It took 2 years to find a house big enough for the family at the price paid. it is very disconcerting watching him talk to the neighbours and then the fall back from that. I think that they see a disabled bay and an escorted school bus and it makes them 'angry' at the 'services' and 'cost' to society. Yet it is not a council home and purchased. I have worked in education for 18 years but left my job recently due to this. Police repeatedly at house due to made up allegations. I have become a scapegoat for anything 'unusual' happening around here. For example a racist allegation made at the park, police came with paperwork for me to sign for re racial harassment, due to me "fitting the description". I had to prove my 'innocence'.
It has been pretty intense to be honest.
he works for the council and been using this 'expertise' against us. filming my children and I, provoking, to obtain 'evidence'. Like I said a pretty intense experience.
He allowed work personnel into our garden without permission. I contacted the police about these people in our garden without permission. They did not need to be on our property either. Police would not attend, despite me informing them of how vulnerable a family we were and the intimidation in our garden by these men and the neighbour. I think the police service, completely unaware and ignorant regarding autism.
You really wouldn't have thought it was legal for him to film you or record you and your family- I would have liked to think this is an illegal breach of your privacy, not to mention a safeguarding concern if he is filming young and vulnerable kids and that the police would see his behaviour as illegal too...but...obviously not?
I think I would try to move, out of whole area, for a fresh start; I think I would rather sleep on the sofa every night, in a tiny house, and let the kids bunk up and share rooms if needs be, rather than have to live with what you and your family are going through.
Better to be cramped and happy than have an adequate sized house and be persecuted?
no, no safeguarding at all. You are right.