How does your neighbour know about your family being autistic. Did you tell them?
yes I told them. they have have also blocked the disabled bay. one of my children attends a SILC and he receives an escorted bus service. neighbours have sounded their horns at this bus, which has other autistic children on the bus. left bins at the side of our gate, made police aware but they have no autism awareness and how this affects my family. My son will not walk by bins. Thus bins left for weeks on end at our gate rather than neighbours own. This neighbour wanted (we found out later) his cousin to buy the house, we did instead and I feel since then he has been trying to drive my family out., spreading malicious lies and other neighbours are now saying I am a "nutter" etc due to my autistic presentation (ie detachment and disengaging).
So, the lights are, in some ways, the least of your problems there. I am really sorry- people (I should say some people) really are ignorant pigs and there sadly seems to be no cure for this.
Feeling safe at home is important, its largely all we have in this world- I think, if I was you, I would seriously think about moving. I know its not fair on you to move but, if it means you may find peace, kindness and understanding elsewhere, then it must be worth considering?
Honestly, what sort of people beep at a special needs bus?
Words needed that cannot be expressed on a public forum.......but they might be more “special” (sic) than the people ON the bus