Trying to decide if a diagnosis will benefit or not.
I have just joined as needed to be able to communicate with other people who are not going to react with disbelief and denial about autism. I have spent 15 year working with young adults with autism and learning difficulties. We decided to foster now our own children are older and began fostering a child who is very intelligent and also autistic. I did some research and courses as I had no experience in this area. I have for the last 10 years believed my daughter had autism but as it didn't affect any areas of her life as we created coping strategies, until uni, did not believe she needed testing. As part of my research I decided to buy the girl with curly hair book, read it and pass it to her to read. This was 10 months ago and during reading it I had a major melt down lasting days if not a week as I realised I am also autistic, this had never occurred to me as a possibility before. When I spoke to my family about it after writing list of my traits the only supportive person was my daughter, who is a speech therapist, she said she knows I am and didn't know how to inform me. My husband, other children, parents all believe I am talking myself into it by researching and reading too much, it makes me feel as though they believe I have a mental illness. I am 43 and don't feel I need a diagnosis for myself but am thinking I need it to be taken seriously. I realise I have become a master of creating coping strategies to get me through life, this does cover up my traits. I am trying to understand my reactions to different experience and to recognise when I am becoming to get stressed so I can act to hopefully prevent major melt downs. I am struggling with comments mainly from family members that I have confided in who can’t hold a conversation with me without throwing the Autistic comments at me, If I had known how they would react I would have kept the knowledge to myself. If I get a diagnosis will it give them more ammunition or will they support me? I was diagnosed with dyslexia in my mid-twenties and thought this was what made me different from others that was until the book. Sorry for waffling on has anyone else had issues with family acceptance?